{"id":39879,"date":"2021-09-14T14:52:52","date_gmt":"2021-09-14T14:52:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.johnpaulcaponigro.com\/blog\/?p=39879"},"modified":"2021-09-14T14:52:52","modified_gmt":"2021-09-14T14:52:52","slug":"the-number-1-reason-not-to-should-all-over-yourself-or-anyone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.johnpaulcaponigro.com\/blog\/39879\/the-number-1-reason-not-to-should-all-over-yourself-or-anyone\/","title":{"rendered":"The Number 1 Reason Not To Should All Over Yourself \u2013 Or Anyone"},"content":{"rendered":"

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We have so many choices in life. As a teacher I\u2019m frequently asked questions like these.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat should I do? Should I do this? Or, should I do that?\u201d<\/p>\n

I invariably reply, \u201cWhat are you trying to do?\u201d<\/p>\n

Our choices imply our intents and we don\u2019t all have the same goals, visions, or styles. (Thank goodness; our variety makes life so much more interesting.)<\/p>\n

And then I recommend rephrasing those questions to get better results.<\/p>\n

Here are questions that you can use instead.<\/p>\n

How many ways can I do this?<\/strong><\/p>\n

This question is a creative challenge designed to open up many possibilities. Start here. Don’t skip it before rushing to the next question. (I recommend you write down all the answers you can think of and keep adding to your list over time.)<\/p>\n

What happens when I do that?<\/strong><\/p>\n

This question provides clarity on the most likely consequences of your choices. It’s cause and effect, which can sometimes change in different contexts so add when and where into the equation.<\/p>\n

Why am I doing this?<\/strong><\/p>\n

This question helps identify goals. (If you’re unsure of your goals ask “Why?” five times in a row. You may not find your final answer this quickly but you will develop a clearer picture.)<\/p>\n

Should I do this or that?<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s a question that limits your choices to two. This question is useful only after you’ve identified your goals, limited many possibilities to two, and you’ve asked the next question. So ask many other questions first.<\/p>\n

Whenever possible, avoid using the word should. It\u2019s limiting and in most situations, you have more choices. The word should<\/i> often implies obligation. There are reasons you choose to do what you choose to do. You may not like all the choices you have and sometimes have to make the least objectionable rather than the most favorable. Still, you choose it. So own it.<\/p>\n

Self-talk matters. Becoming more conscious of the language we use internally has many benefits including increased awareness of what\u2019s going on outside and inside us as well as our reactions to these psychic events \u2026 and with that awareness comes choice. Once we\u2019re aware of what\u2019s going on inside us we can choose to let it flow uninterrupted or we can influence its speed, course, and tone. It\u2019s not just stop or go, it\u2019s also how and where would you like it to flow?<\/p>\n

Read more in my Creativity Resources.<\/a><\/strong><\/span>
\nLearn more in my Creativity Workshops.<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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